Father's Day --Like Joshua Reach Up and Stop the Sun

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Father’s Day. 

Memories swirl. 

Not buying stuff..not even tossing a ball

   or writing a check. 

But more.

I don’t remember how old she must’ve been. 

Maybe six or eight or ten.

But my red-headed daughter crawled up

   into my lap. 

She pushed aside the newspaper I was reading.

Then she took both her hands

   placed them on my cheeks

and turned my head toward her.

“ Look at me, Daddy. Look at me.” 

Isn’t this what all children want.

But isn’t this what we all want.

To be taken seriously. 

With no distractions.

No stuff. 

No Newspapers.

No TV. 

No cell phones.

No iPads. 

No figuring up the check book

But: “Look at me Daddy

 Look at me."

It’s really is all that they really want.

To give them ourselves

Like Joshua to reach up and stop that big yellow ball—

   For just one holy moment. 

To look at her. To care…,to let her know

    above all else she at that moment

    Is the most important thing in the world.

It’s what they want. 

To look and care and 

   laugh and hug.

Look at her. Those moments  pass—

   she grows up. Moves away.

But she will always know

  he looked at her and it mattered.

              --Roger Lovette

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                                                    --Roger Lovette / rogerlovette.blogspot.com

Everybody Needs a Benediction

 

Sometimes we preachers wonder if anybody out there is listening. Sometimes they aren’t. And often somebody will surprise us with their listening. But either case we forget the power of words.  In the Old Testament when a word was spoken something happened. God spoke and the world came in to being. God spoke to Abraham and this was a voice that changed history. Moses stood open-mouthed before a burning bush he was never the same. Mary and Joseph both heard the voice of an angel.

Words matter. For good or bad. Myron Madden once wrote a book called The Power to Bless. And he said that our words carry the power to bless or to curse. So we should be careful what we say. All of us. We have all felt the power of the blessing or the curse. 

So back to the end of the service. People standing ready to leave gathering up their children or their belongings. Hungry and ready to get home. Some thinking about their Sunday afternoon. Maybe golf or a nap. And as they turn to leave their pew the preacher will say “Let me give you the Benediction before you leave. “ And sometimes we groan and say: “Oh no—not another mini-sermon.” But sometimes the strangest thing will happen. There at the end ready to leave— lightning will strike as real and life-changing as those stories in the Bible.

What I did not know as we finished our service was that someone ready to leave latched on to some phrase or word in the Benediction. They probably may not remember the fine sermon I thought I gave. But again and again someone will remember the Benediction. One woman, troubled by many things would call me up and say, “Roger I need to hear my Benediction.” And on the phone I give her the words that helped her along. Words that she needed. I would pray: “May the peace that passes all understanding and the love that will not let us go abide rest and abide with us forever.” And about every month after that—my friend would call with the same request. “I really need to hear my Benediction.”

 I have no idea how many emails I have received with this same request. “Do you remember the Benediction you used to pray at the end of the service. Could you send that to me?” A woman stopped me the other day and said she had just talked to her son in California who had not been to church in years. He asked me the strangest thing. “Mother when I grew up in church the Pastor would pray the same words at the end of the sermon every Sunday.” Could you get those words for me?” So I sent him the Benediction through his Mother. 

I wish I could claim that ending prayer originated with me. But the words are rooted deep in the Bible. Peace and love. Maybe these two words spoke to a hunger to those who remembered.

Sometimes the word, Benediction is interchangeable with the word: Blessing. And when  a preacher raises his hands at the end of the service hopefully all those who come will find a peace we all need and a love deep in our hearts we crave. 

Peace

God knows we need this powerful word in our lives.  Peace is not the cessation of our wars.  And it does not mean that every storm in our lives will go away. But I think maybe somebody out there at the end of the service will suddenly begin to find in the middle of their stormy weather there really is a peace that passes all the world’s understanding. Not depending on circumstances or achievement. But it does mean that in the middle of whatever we face we will find promised peace.

People in our world look up and wonder. How can there be peace when all around us is all this suffering? More than 600,000 of our brothers and sisters lost to this cursed virus. Think of all those left behind. Wives and husbands, partners and friends. and so many others. Their lives have been upended because of the grief they carry. This promised peace takes us all in.

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Love

But there is also a second word: love. “A love that will not let us go.” It is nothing that we do—it just comes like the shining sun and the moon at midnight. We think about love inside and outside the church—as conditional. “I love you if…” and all of us can fill in the blanks. This is a far cry from that love that will not let any of us go.

One Sunday at church the Minister preached on love. At the end of the sermon the line formed to receive Holy Communion. As the people passed by a young woman hard looking and smelling of alcohol leaned over to the Minister and said, “You said God even loves even prostitutes. Did you mean that?” And the minister whispered, “Yes.” The girl put her hand over her mouth and began to sob.

It is hard to believe that in this chaotic world there is a love that will not let us go. But that word called steadfast love that moves throughout the scriptures and spills over to all of us. We could easily place our names down beside all those Jesus touched. The woman at the well. Zaccheus. Doubting Thomas. The prodigal son or daughter. Simon Peter. Like the word peace—love is also a word that takes us all in.

I love that old story that Carlyle Marney used to tell.  On Monday morning, he said,  When the custodians come in to sweep out the sanctuary from the day before they will discover the strangest things. Instead of umbrellas, odd gloves, idly penciled notes, and discarded orders of service, they will come upon some other things. Scattered here and there they will find some big man’s deep grief and another’s disappointment and someone’s sense of failure. They will stumble on some quiet woman’s bitter hurt, another’s painful pride. Someone’s quarrel with God. Far over in another section, so tiny they almost miss it, they come on to some youngster’s sin—real or imagined. And they will find the bulky trash of someone’s badly bruised ego, All left behind where it belongs. All that was found would be swept out and thrown away when church is over.

Pastors pray all sorts of fine Benedictions. But let us stop and listen until the word becomes flesh and breaks open the crust of our hearts. Let’s pray that some word or words will stop at our pew and call our names. And when this happens we will know the power to bless. And that love that will never lets go  will begin  to change who we are into who we just might become.

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Two Moving Benedictions

William Sloane Coffin’s Benediction goes like this: 

May God give you grace never to sell yourself short, 

grace to risk something big for something good, 

grace to remember that the world is too dangerous 

for anything but truth 

and too small for anything but love.”

My friend, the late John Claypool gave his people this blessing for most of his ministry. 

“Depart now in the fellowship of God the Father, 

and as you go remember:

in the goodness of Good, you were born into this world;

by the grace of God, you have been kept all the day long, 

even unto this very hour;

and by the love of God, fully revealed in the face of Jesus,

you are being redeemed. Amen” 

                                              

                                               --Roger Lovette / rogerlovette.blogspot.com                                       

                        

Looking at Pentecost

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We cotton-mill Baptists had not heard of Pentecost. We did know that two blocks away was the Pentecostal church. Which of course was a little too rowdy and uncultured for us Baptists. They spoke in tongues and waved their arms in the air during the service. The Methodist Church flour blocks away was a step above us Baptists but they had not gotten the word about Pentecost. But three miles downtown was the tiny Episcopal Church all ready observing Pentecost. And down that street, on the corner was the Catholic church with its tall white building with this day on their liturgical calendar.  But we stayed away from them because they not only worshipped idols like the Virgin Mary but they kept guns in the basement of their church and would one day take over America. 

For so many of us in the forties and fifties, the month of May meant Mother’s Day when we gave corsages to the oldest mother present and the woman who had the youngest baby. We also observed Memorial Day when we decorated the graves of our loved ones who had died and others too. We spread a cloth under a shady tree and had a delicious Southern lunch. But this was about all the celebrations we could take for May.

It was only years later that me, and so many other Protestants began to unpack the real meaning of Pentecost. My discovery reminded me of that little boy that stood on the rim of the Grand Canyon and looking at the vista whispered, “Something happened here.”

After Calvary and all its horrors, finally Easter came and there was gladness everywhere among his believers, But Ascension followed saying Jesus  left the earth and they stood there just looking up more than a little afraid and feeling abandoned. And then Pentecost came. Something happened there to those bereft-grief-stricken disciples. They marched out and began to change the world. Some power was unleashed that day and tradition says eleven of the twelve were martyred because of their faith. Nothing could stop them.  Not even the power of Rome or the bickering of tiny churches or all those that just went away shaking their heads.

Something really did happen there. And although Jesus was not with them, his spirit came comforting, bearing truth, and standing by them always. And Jesus had promised: “You will know peace very different than what the world gives, and their hearts would not be troubled most days, and they would find even in their darkest hours they were not afraid.

No wonder the Church has finally discovered the wonder and vista of this day. And like the Grand Canyon—Pentecost is still here after all these years. I can now understand how those Pentecostals—then and  now—speak in tongues and wildly waved their hands with hope.

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So let’s look back at the Pentecost miracle after all these years. Nothing has diminished the joy that filled their hearts. And we can crawl out from under the craziness and hatred that seems to be all around us. But the wrongness of it all cannot stop the Pentecostal power. Remember Nazi Germany. Remember segregation. Remember the Viet Nam Memorial. Remember the hatred that still fills our streets. Remember this cursed virus that has killed almost 600,000 in our country alone. Remember the grief that all their loved ones still carry.

I gets downhearted when I look around me at all the cruelty, the evil that still rears its ugly head. But on my better days I remember Pentecost. 

“Grand Canyon” was an old movie and I still remember its power. Danny Glover plays a man who lives in a terrible section of the city. He is divorced and is estranged from his children. He drives a tow-truck and he lives with very little money. And a white man, played by Kevin Cline asked him how in the world he can you stand it. It seems impossible. And Danny Glover’s character replies: “When it gets too much I get in my car and drive thousands of miles to the Grand Canyon. And I get out of my car and sit on the ledge of the Grand Canyon and just get out and look and look Then I get back in my car and head back to my neighborhood with all its problems and I can make it.”

This is Pentecost. Let us not miss its power.

         

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                                                 --Roger Lovette / rogerlovette.blogspot.com

Ascension--Huh?

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Ascension came and went last Thursday. Did you miss it? A whole lot of us Reverends skip over the word and rush own to more sacred things like what’s for dinner tonight? At the end of the Jesus’ story after Calvary and Easter morning he appeared to his disciples several times. He held out his nail-scarred hands. And over and over Jesus whispered a word that we still need to hear. “Peace,” said, “Peace. And the book of Acts begins by saying Jesus just slipped away. 

Acts says suddenly he was gone and they just stood there in shock. Slowly Jesus ascended through the clouds and those that had followed him through so much kept squinting their eyes, staring up and the blue sky and the clouds. And two men in white garments appeared before them saying: “Why do you stand there looking up toward heaven.” Good question then and now. And through the years so many in the church have focused on up there—heaven. A whole spate of books have appeared talking about heaven and those with near-death experiences let us know what it’s like up there. Reinhold Niebuhr once said, “I refuse to talk about the fires of hell or the furniture of heaven.” But a whole lot of Christians are sure they have it all worked out. 

Which brings me back to Ascension. Maybe we still miss the point because it is more comfortable talking about the up there than what we find down here. Today looking around us is hard. We’ve all been through a terrible time. We have lost almost 600,000 of our brothers and sisters because of this awful word, coronavirus. We’ve been trapped more than a year at home mostly. Our world has been turned upside down. 

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No wonder some of us, hands above our eyes long to look somewhere than where we are. Maybe Ascension means it is time to change our focus. From there to here. From heaven back down to earth. And we can’t turn away from this hurting world as much as we would like. 

The world then and now convulses with enormous problems. Yet we have been called to take off our blinders and see what is here. This is our work. Not sugar-coated promises. No “it will be better before long.” The two angels said, “For God’s sake look around you.” This is our work. Abraham Lincoln used to tell this story that came out of the Civil War. It seemed that a very pious chaplain moved through the ranks asking soldier after soldier: “Brother are you saved?” One soldier knee-deep in mud, trying to push a stuck cannon out of that mess, snarled back at the Chaplain, “Don’t ask me any riddles I’m stuck in the mud.”

Ascension forces us to deal with the mud. Not us but them. We’ve reversed the order. This strange gospel shines the spotlight on the them’s. Jesus said we really do save our lives by losing them. Taking a towel and washing some very dirty feet. Bob Dylan sings mournfully, “You gotta serve somebody.” Them.

Of course we have to take care of those nearest to us. Those at our breakfast table. Those we send off to school. Those we would lay down our lives for. Taking care of us and ours.

Burt the Ascension gospel won’t let us stop there. We keep bumping into this cursed word, them. The outsiders. Immigrants. Blacks. The different. The poor and the rich. The Transgendered. The Gays. Those old folks in nursing homes. The people who live down your street whose names we do not know. 

Surely we have to keep our eyes on all that lies around us. This is our task. Ascension has passed but it’s challenge remains. Why do we stand gazing toward heaven when there is so much to do around here?

Wendell Berry reminds us: 

                                               “Make a story

                           Show how love and joy, beauty and goodness

                                     shine out amongst the rubble.”

                                   --Roger Lovette /rogerlovette.blogspot.com

                             

Making a Bed in a Pandemic Time

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A friend of mine told me one day that she had gone through a terrible divorce. Which left her drained and sad and angry. She got to the place where she simply shut down. Her Mother came by one day and she told her how terrible she felt and how depressed she was. After listening for a while the Mama told her daughter, “When you feel like you can’t do anything, make your bed.” My friend said those words helped her enormously. Looking back she said that was the beginning of her journey back into real living. Make your bed. Simple words. Strong words. Make your bed. 

I have thought of those words often when I have been down or when someone poured out their heart to me. Make your bed. A wise counselor told me once: “When you are depressed—move a muscle.” Do something—it might not seem like much but it could just be the beginning of your healing.

Once years ago I was Pastor of a church where things were not working out. Good folk. I just could not get a handle on things. I worked so hard there and it seemed to me that nothing I did mattered. But when you are depressed you don’t see anything clearly. A friend asked me later: “How did you get through that painful time?” “Well," I answered,  I tried to move a muscle.” I was swimming a lot in those days. And I would drive out to the pool and begin my swim. Most days I felt almost nothing. But I swam and swam and swam. And that exercise helped me enormously . Slowly my depression lifted. But It would be foolish to say to those having a hard time just swim and you will make it. Nothing that matters is simple. 

Make your bed. Read a book. Turn off the TV. Plant a garden. Listen to the birds.  Call a friend you haven’t talked to in years. Take a walk. Maybe a run. Write a letter. Clean your windows. Pray. Meditate. Zoom if you can figure it out. Do something. Remember. Remember.

Wendell Berry the wise poet said:

                                         

                                          “Make a story

                                    show how love and joy, 

                                      beauty and goodness

                                   shine out amongst the rubble.”  

There are so many troubled places in the world. This virus-plague is still scary. We’ve lost so many in our country and all over the grieving world. I am losing too many of my friends. I find myself writing too many sympathy cards.  

Sitting here in the comfort of my house outside the storm rages on many fronts. Some days I wonder how all this furor and hate and death will come to an end. There seems so little that I can do. But this I know. I can make my bed—but this is only the beginning of my day. And yours, too.

                                                            photo by Tom Hodgkinson / flikr

                                             --Roger Lovette / rogerlovette.blogspot.com

Easter...Easter...Easter

 

I've had this picture in my office for years and years. I look at it when I need hope. Maybe it will help you too.

Most everyone has a favorite story. Mine goes back to that time when my wife and I visited the Passion Play in Oberammergau  And I can still remember what I surprise I found there. The Passion play opened with Jesus riding into Jerusalem and a whole stage of people shouting the king has come. They yelled hallelujahs until they were hoarse. And then the story told of the last week Jesus spent marching, stumbling the way of the cross. We saw it all as Jesus  slowly made his way up that terrible hill. The crucifixion was gruesome as he was nailed to the central cross with two criminals on each side. And his mother and her friends stayed there until the end. And we saw those who loved him take him down from the cross and buried him. The lights on the stage darkened and almost went out. We sat mostly in darkness. But the thing I remembered most was happened next. Weeping women came on the stage and stood by the tomb hoping to get in. But the stone was too heavy. And suddenly an angel came and without saying a word, unrolled a long white aisle cloth from the stone doors down the steps to the where the audience sat. And as the grieving women beat on the great stone doors they began to slowly open. And light came from inside those doors. The light grew stronger and dazzling light slowly filled the stage and the whole theatre. The stone doors opened wide. And Jesus came through the streaming light. As he walked across the stage from everywhere a multitude of children came running forward, laughing and grabbing his legs. He had come back.

We didn’t say much as we left. Most of the crowd were quiet. But I could not get the scene of Jesus coming through the darkness into that blinding light.

Maybe those that waved their palm branches only days before were on to something. They had yelled: “The King is coming.” Little did they know that even after all these years †he King is here. No darkness then or now could keep him out.

Thanks be to God.

                                                          --Roger Lovette / rogerlovette.blogspot.com

Good Friday in a Good Friday World

 

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Good Friday. And so the long circuitous week is just about over. It was called the Via Dolorosa Which means “The Way of Sorrows”. Seems like it has been a long time since that shining Sunday when they threw their cloaks on the road and shouted, over and over:”Hallelujah! Hallelujah! The King is coming.”And they were right—except they turned away that Friday because no King is nailed, naked to a cross. That was the fate of the criminals. Most of the crowd, bored that the show was over had moved away. Even the soldiers who had gambled for his garments had left. Only one soldier was left on duty. Most of the Disciples had fled. Judas had already killed himself. And so John, the beloved, Mary Jesus’ mother and a few women stood there at the foot of that terrible cross. The others? Where were they?

It is strange indeed. Through the years this King with a crown of thorns, nailed like the two criminals would move so many. And yet on that hill far away so many have found something that makes us feel maybe, maybe he stretched out those wounded hands for us.

This long and terrible year could well be the centerpiece for this Good Friday. Where grief and loneliness and injustice and cruelty and more grief is everywhere. The prophet in a hard time said, “Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows.”  He was in exile himself and kept speaking to his people. They thought Isaiah had lost his mind. They saw no hope hundreds of miles from their homeland and everything they held dear. What valleys had been lifted up? What hills and mountains has been low? What uneven ground and what rough place were not moved? They wanted to go home.

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We’ve all felt it this year. Too many deaths, too many suicides, too much rage and hatred and just too much suffering. Just a year ago all those who now were dead. lived and worked and dreamed and loved thinking they just might live forever. And those they left behind separating belongings of their now-dead loved ones. This was not supposed to happen. 

Dear God, why after two thousand years do we still look up, make the sign of the cross and somehow go on? Does he still, this time bear our griefs and carry all these sorrows? Or is this merely preacher talk and wishful thinking? Who knows?

But as I think of this Good Friday I remember a story I read somewhere. 

A.E. Hotchner was a good friend of Ernest Hemingway, the great writer. He followed him, through the years of triumphs and women and alcoholism and depressions. As far as Hotchner knew Hemingway had no faith. But one of the writer’s great friends was Gary Cooper. And one day Cooper and Hemingway both were slowly dying of cancer. Hotchner went to see the movie star and he talked to Cooper about Hemingway and told him some Hemingway stories and gossip. From his hospital bed Cooper, shook his head and said, “Poor Papa.” Some time before Cooper had come into the Catholic church and when Hemingway heard this he laughed and laughed. Over and over Hemingway would needle him about his faith. And this is the way Hotchner tells of that hospital visit with Gary Cooper:   

“He was hit by a big pain and his face contorted as he fought it off…When the pain had passed, Cooper reached his hand over to the bed table and picked up a crucifix, which he put on a pillow beside his head. ‘Please give Papa a message. It’s important and you mustn’t forget because I’ll not be talking to him again. Tell him…that time I wondered if I had made the right decision’—he moved the crucifix a little closer so that it touched his cheek—‘tell him it was the best thing I ever did.’” Cooper died ten days later. Hemingway took a gun and killed himself days later.

And as I think about today I remembered that story. Perhaps Good Friday is true after all. For maybe, just maybe Jesus really does bear our griefs and carries our sorrows. Could this be, after all these years, why we still set this day aside and look up at his cross? 

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--Roger Lovette / rogerlovette.blogspot.com