High up on our Christmas tree, near the top, if you look
closely you may see it. If you don’t squint your eyes and look carefully you’ll
probably miss it entirely. I’m talking about the star.
It may be the tiniest ornament on the tree. The little star
is probably an inch and a half in diameter. The star was made in the church
kitchen by a little girl and her Sunday school teacher over forty years ago in
Southside Virginia.
Every year, without fail she breezes into the house with her
own two daughters. After lugging in suitcases, pillows and presents she always
moves toward the Christmas tree in the corner. She asks the same question year
after year. “Where’s the star?” Christmas would not be Christmas without that
star. I used to think it was a foolish request hanging on to that old homemade
star. But I have changed my mind.
We all need some ties to back there. We need some stack pole
of remembering that sends us back, back toward yesterday and the past and our
roots. What’s your star? Probably not a paste ornament. What is it that calls
you back to what used to be with a tug and a pull that is almost magic? I have
a buddy who keeps high on a shelf an old threadbare teddy bear. Some of the
stuffing is missing and one eye has been lost. His Daddy bought it for him at
the fair one time. They stood there looking at the wonderful stuffed animals
and he pointed and his Daddy shook his head. The little boy burst into tears
and snubbed and snubbed. Finally the Father sighed took out his billfold and
handed the clerk the money. His Daddy has been dead for more than thirty years,
yet that teddy bare are one of his most precious possessions.
I have another friend, long gone now, that kept an old pouch of chewing tobacco pinned to the bookcase behind his desk. He told me he grew up in this little tiny cotton mill village and smoke breaks were few and far between. Almost everybody then chewed tobacco in the mill. The man has written a score of books. He taught hundreds of students. And he always kept a pouch of chewing tobacco as a reminder of how far he had come and how grateful he was.
Several years ago I stopped by to see the old black lady that we would now call a Nanny. She kept my brother and me for years and loved us fiercely. As I started to leave she told me she wanted to show me something. She opened a dresser drawer and pulled out something wrapped in tissue paper. She unfolded the yellowing paper and held up a slip. “Miz Ruth give me this slip. She always gave me the nicest presents.” She had never worn it but she kept it and remembered.
I have another friend, long gone now, that kept an old pouch of chewing tobacco pinned to the bookcase behind his desk. He told me he grew up in this little tiny cotton mill village and smoke breaks were few and far between. Almost everybody then chewed tobacco in the mill. The man has written a score of books. He taught hundreds of students. And he always kept a pouch of chewing tobacco as a reminder of how far he had come and how grateful he was.
Several years ago I stopped by to see the old black lady that we would now call a Nanny. She kept my brother and me for years and loved us fiercely. As I started to leave she told me she wanted to show me something. She opened a dresser drawer and pulled out something wrapped in tissue paper. She unfolded the yellowing paper and held up a slip. “Miz Ruth give me this slip. She always gave me the nicest presents.” She had never worn it but she kept it and remembered.
Christmas is a time for stirring memories. Silver Bells.
Silent Night. Santa Claus is coming to town. I’m dreaming of a white Christmas.
O Come All Ye Faithful. But this season is much, much more. The faces loom up
before us. Names of those long dead get mixed up with fun-filled times from our
crowded pasts. Christmas is a remembering time.
Some of us hang the symbols of our memories on a Christmas
tree. Some pack them away in tissue paper. Some place these momentoes carefully
in a jewelry box and open it up from time to time and just smile. Some just
keep our treasures tucked away in our hearts.
(Almost every Christmas for years I have told this story. It has appeared in The Birmingham News (AL) and The Greenville News (SC). I have published it several times in my Christmas blogs through the years. Read it and do your own remembering.)
--rogerlovette/ rogerlovette.blogspot.com
there's probably not an ornament on our tree that wasn't either a gift or handmade
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